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Being Ruthless With Yourself

Why staying focused and being ruthless with what you allow into your life, is so important!

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I want to say a word or two today about the need for being ruthless with yourself. 

Funnily enough, what prompted this was a moment of absent minded Instagram browsing. I was flicking through, as you do, when I realised that I was looking at posts from an account that I followed, run by a company that offered a particular service in a city that I don’t live in. I had planned to move there a while ago, but plans changed and I ended up somewhere else. 

I caught myself looking at it, genuinely interested…before of course realising just how useless is was to me! 

I immediately unsubscribed from the account. Why? Well why clutter up not only my Instagram feed, but my energy flow with information that isn’t serving my journey?

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As I teach all of my clients in my group coaching, and throughout my online programs; we have to be deliberate with what we are asking the universe for in setting our goals!

Ask a wishy-washy question and you’ll get an inaccurate answer, right? This is how we have to think of our intention setting. 

If we are to be so detailed in our chosen outcomes, then so too must we be with what we choose to allow into our lives. This means being cut-throat at times, especially with things, situations and people who not only don’t support our desired outcomes, they serve to divert us from them. 

Someone who came to one of my Deep Dive coachingweekends found this out when it came to wanting to find a loving relationship with somebody. She ended up taking herself off various dating sites and apps, because they did not serve her vision for what she wanted out of a relationship. 

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Because she not only made the firm commitment to what she wanted, but also to not allowing anything in that was not aligned with that outcome. She was ‘lovingly ruthless’ in curating an environment that was aligned with her intention. 

Why ‘lovingly’? Well because the intention here is not to be mean spirited or harmful in any way. This is about showing yourself love by respecting the outcomes you want to see in your life, and acknowledging that you are deserving of them. 

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Now these things may seem innocuous. I just unfollowed someone on Instagram, she stopped using some dating apps; but the smallest hinges open the biggest doors! 

I talk a lot about alignment and sometimes it can be the smallest things that are throwing us off, keeping us from having what we want. This is why we need to pay attention to everything that we allow in. Especially if you’ve been doing all the work and are feeling like you’re not seeing the results; it could well be something small that you’ve overlooked that, once removed, unlocks your abundance. 

We owe it to ourselves to protect our vision to that degree! Being ruthless is how we do that. 

So go through your life asking yourself at every turn: “Does this thing/situation/person align with what I want?” If it doesn’t and it’s in your life, you are standing between you and your intention! 

Be lovingly ruthless guys!

This is my call to action for you today:

Go through your day-to-day routine, accounts you follow, habits you may have formed, addictions etc… and be ruthless in cutting out those that are not aligned with the outcomes you want to see. 

I had an ex who wouldn’t allow chipped crockery in her house, because it wasn’t aligned with abundance. Yeah! ‘Crazy’ you might say, but she knew what she wanted and that wasn’t it!

I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised at how quickly you’ll start to see things shift, once you eliminate those disrupting factors from your life.

Thank you so much for reading this blog, from the bottom of my heart! If you enjoyed it, I produce regular Do It With Dan blogs, podcasts and videos. I have three books published now: Stepping Beyond Intention, The Dreamer’s Manifesto and From Time-to-Time (a really great book on time mastery). All of these are here to serve you and make you part of the journey as well. 

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