Have you ever sat down and thought about your relationship with money or questioned the way you think about money?
In fact, have you ever wondered why some people never seem to struggle with the concept of having money at all? They don’t feel guilty when it comes to spending money and never have those internal dialogues trying to justify every cent they spend.
Whereas you on the other hand are the complete opposite.
If you’re not feeling guilty about spending what you do have you’re worrying about how you’re going to pay the bills or afford to go on the holiday you so desperately need to go on.
So what is it that makes some people’s relationship with money so easy when for others it’s so hard?
How can you repair your relationship with money?
Can I get scientific for a moment?
Scientists believe that your subconscious mind controls 95 percent of your life. That’s huge. It means only 5% of the decisions we make happen consciously, which is why it’s so important we have some understanding over the inner workings of our subconscious mind.
I’ll let you into a secret. The reason we behave the way we do is because our subconscious is habit based.
Our daily routine of getting up, starting work, eating, drinking and sleeping is a habit. One that’s so well-formed we don’t even realize we’re doing it.
Our subconscious is a hard drive of information which can be recalled at any point and used over and over again.
BUT…it’s not just your daily routine being stored it’s everything.
Every thought you’ve ever had, positive or negative, things you’ve experienced, dreams, memories, and of course those pesky limiting beliefs around money and your relationship with money.
What we’re about to do is reset your hard drive and erase all that harmful data that’s become like a virus clouding your thoughts and emotions, dictating your every move and influencing your judgment without you even knowing. To really dive deep on this and identify everything that’s currently going on with your relationship to money, take my quiz: https://dreamwithdan.com/money-mindset-quiz/
Let me introduce you to the four step process to resetting your relationship with money.
Resetting Your Relationship with Money Step 1: IDENTIFY
First things first, we need to identify those limiting beliefs you have around money.
Each and every one of them. Don’t hold back.
Be honest with yourself and list out each thought you’ve ever had around money.
Try to remember when you first had that thought and who instigated it.
Has the expectation growing up always been that no matter how hard you work you’ll never earn more than minimum wage?
Did your family talk about ‘being poor’ and how life doesn’t change for people like us?
Were you told when you came home from school with a note about a school trip that there wasn’t enough money to waste on things like that?
All of these are valid thoughts and help to feed those money mindset monkeys.
The only way you can distance yourself from your negative beliefs around money, and eventually banish them completely, is by first identifying each and every one. To help you do that as easily as possible, I’ve put together this fully comprehensive Money Mindset quiz: https://dreamwithdan.com/money-mindset-quiz
Resetting Your Relationship with Money Step 2: CHALLENGE
Now you’ve identified your limiting beliefs, it’s time to challenge them. Writing a list is great but on its own it won’t be effective.
Every time a negative money thought enters your mind, challenge the assumption you’ve just made and ask yourself for supporting evidence. In order to do that, however, you must first have an objective overview of what your currently held money mindset is. You must also understand how your relationship to money works, if you are to find the right strategies for you to create your dream life. That’s why I strongly suggest you take my Money Mindset quiz: https://dreamwithdan.com/money-mindset-quiz
It will give you everything you need to be able to question the beliefs that are holding you back.
What evidence exists to support that negative thought?
Allow yourself to consider that thought from different angles with a fresh perspective.
Clear your mind and really challenge yourself to think differently.
Resetting Your Relationship with Money Step 3: DEVELOP
The way you talk to yourself has a massive effect on your subconscious mind. Negative inner monologues have a negative affect on how we think and feel so it’s time to flick the switch.
And develop some positive inner monologues around money.
If you’ve ever had one of those days where you’ve felt grumpy all day muttering and mumbling under your breath then you’ll know what I mean.
Because you’ve told yourself you’re in a bad mood it affects everything you do that day.
This is no different.
Developing your ability around positive affirmations and positive self-talk will make all the difference to how you deal with your wealth blocks and money concerns.
Negative: I can’t afford that. Positive: Once I get paid I’ll do it..
Negative: I’ll never have more money. Positive: I want to have more money.
Negative: Having money is selfish. Positive: Having money allows me to help others.
Negative: Wanting more money is greedy. Positive: Money can help me do lots of great things.
Negative: Money won’t improve my life. Positive: Money will let me live the life I deserve.
Negative: I don’t want money, it changes things. Positive: Money allows me to make positive changes in my life.
Negative: I will never have enough money. Positive: I can make as much money as I want.
Negative: I don’t get paid enough. Positive: My income exceeds my expenses.
Resetting Your Relationship with Money Step 4: PROTECT
And finally, protect your new and positive thoughts from the negative self-destructive ones.
Just like anything new it takes time for this to become the ‘new norm’ and you need to sustain your positivity over a lasting period of time.
Jump on any negative money thoughts that enter your mind.
Be protective like a lioness with her cub.
Nurture your new positive thoughts and put a shield between you and negativity.
Bottom line, you can reset your hard drive at any time, it’s never too late to get started.
You’re the one in control of your own mind, nobody else, so you get to decide what you let in and what you don’t.
So now I want to challenge you to change your relationship with money and:
…let go of of your preconceived ideas around money
…feel open to receiving money and changing your financial situation
…welcome the positive things money can achieve
…understand that money is only as strong as the power you give it
…understand the money mindset required to get rid of a ‘lack’ mentality
…break up with scarcity and flirt with affluent abundance