Having a happy life is a choice. Making it is sometimes more complicated.
Someone asked me this very question on a live video I did a while ago. So I thought I’d do a blog about it, because it actually threw up some interesting chat about what it really means to be happy.
Whether you think I answered the question, or not, I shall leave to you, but basically it’s a question of choosing. So here we go:
1 – Make the choice to be happy
Ok, got it? Moving on…
Right obviously it isn’t as simple as that. Yes, making the choice is ‘easy’ but understanding it is a whole other kettle of fish.
Happiness is an emotional frequency born of experience, right? I mean…in a nutshell. So just like every other outcome that we want to create in our lives, we have to first identify the frequency of happiness, how we really feel when we are happy; and then commit to it.
This may require major life changes, but in all likelihood; probably not!
In making the choice to be happy, you should seek to understand how your perspective on any given situation results in your emotive response being one of happiness, or un-happiness. We know that any event can provoke a different response in different people, right?
For instance my partner and I could have a child. My emotional take away from the experience could be one of boundless joy, love and happiness, but my partner could have the opposite experience. It’s the same event, but translated through two different people and interpreted into two different frequencies.
We have to choose to be happy in these situations, which requires as close to an objective perspective as we can muster.
So what can we do in order to follow through on our commitment to be happy?
2. Make consistent choices that are in alignment with being happy
Well this obviously requires us to not be ruled by our emotions, first and foremost, doesn’t it?
If we are to choose a happy response wherever possible, in every situation, it requires that we are able to intervene consciously, before we have a ‘lizard-brain’ response.
How do we do that?
We clear and center ourselves in the present as much and as often as possible. I have lots of great tools and resources for doing that. Many of them you can grab for free HERE. In essence, it’s by being in the present that we can view something for what it is, free of the implications of the past or for the future: just looking at what something means for you right now.
Once we can see it like that, we can look for the things that make us happy. This goes hand-in-glove with practicing gratitude. I’ve written other blogs and done countless podcasts on the importance of gratitude, and how we can put it in to practice. I won’t bore you with that here, but suffice it to say; finding something to be grateful for in an event or situation, is a great hack for producing a state of happiness.
You might have had a stressful day at a job you’re not particularly in love with; but you might have made it in on time! Your favourite space in the parking lot might have been available, or maybe you didn’t have to sit in traffic on the way home. Somewhere in there will be something to be grateful for, even if it’s just having a job at all!
Another thing you can do is something physical, that renders it impossible to be unhappy. This can take a lot of will power when things are particularly crappy, but they really do work.
For instance: you can stand up and wiggle your butt! put on your favourite song and get crackin’!! Just do it! Your subconscious will not be able to maintain a glum, miserable attitude when you’re standing there shaking your booty. It just won’t. You would have to consciously choose to be miserable at that point (which quite a few people people do).
Your physical state informs your inner state, so jump to!!
Emotions only last 90-seconds. After that it’s up to you. Once those 90 seconds is up, the emotional energy is gone, so let it go. Really practice that as much as you can.
Now I say ‘allow’ because a big part of being able to let the emotional energy go, is having felt it in the first place! So much of why you hold on to emotional baggage is because you’re running from it. People don’t allow, in those 90 seconds, the emotional energy to flow. They resist and it gets stuck.
If you’re feeling crappy, feel crappy. Embrace whatever emotional state you’re in for those 90 seconds, so that you can let it go afterwards.
The choice to be happy is an easy one to make. Breaking free of the illusions and the stuck states is what takes work, but you absolutely can do it! One booty shake at a time.
I hope this has clicked with you. If you enjoyed it, I produce regular Do It With Dan blogs, podcasts and videos. I have three books published now: Stepping Beyond Intention, The Dreamer’s Manifesto and From Time-to-Time (a really great book on time mastery). All of these are here to serve you and make you part of the journey as well.
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