“You can lead a horse to water, but it’s only going to drink if it’s thirsty”
Hey guys and gals, coming back once again with the second in my three-part series on what I learned from the people I’ve failed to make millionaires. Here – I’m really talking about the folks who come claiming to want change, without first understanding where they are now, and therefore: what they’re even changing!
If you missed part one, please go ahead and check that out right here.
This week I’m messing with a well-known saying, but I think; appropriately so. I know that it normally goes:
“You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink”
But my ‘re-appropriation’ of this really speaks more to the idea that: we can only expand into something more, once we’ve reached the full potential of who we are now!
So many of us really struggle to break free of the addiction to who we are. The idea of expanding into something/somebody new actually fills us with dread! So much so that we wind up trapped in who we are, unable to progress.
What I’ve seen with so many people who come to my courses/seminars/retreats/coaching sessions etc… is that they actually don’t want to attain something more expansive. Moving into being a wealthy or abundant individual just really doesn’t jive with who they really are, and frankly: who they really want to be.
Change always comes with some growing pains, but these are easy to overcome IF you have sufficient leverage over yourself.
If you know that who you really are is on the other side of the change, that you’ve ‘outgrown’ your current life, then crossing over into a new level of expansiveness comes easily.
Aside: this is also why I use and encourage micro-steps, when working with people. The point is to get you to the edge of your current potential, in such a way that stepping over the line and pushing the edge simply requires one more micro step. This comes with very little/no fear and therefore zero resistance from the mind.
Speaking of the mind: we only experience what our mind puts out, based on the blueprint that’s deep within us. Taking that a step further: our environment doesn’t lie! It’s a direct reflection of our inner most programming, so…
it is simply not possible to experience anything new without first changing that internal ‘wiring’.
This is why I (and other coaches) always try and get people to accurately paint a picture of what their life looks like on a typical day. How much money they have in the bank and also make a note of the most cash that they ever had access to/at their disposal, at any one time.
So if you want to know what your beliefs are, what your addictions are and what is going on with you inside:
just look at what’s around you!
I recently had something show up in my experience and my response to it was: “nah thanks, I don’t do drama!” But then I caught myself and had to realise that: I do, do drama because it’s shown up for me.
“You can lead a horse to water, but it will only drink if it’s thirsty”
One of the most powerful lessons that I’ve learned in supporting people through my programs, and especially with the folks that I’ve failed to make millionaires is:
If people have not actually reached the place where they want to expand into a space of financial abundance – it doesn’t matter how kick ass the tools are that you provide. It doesn’t matter how powerful the intention calls are, or how deeply moving the energy work is – they are not going to change.
And you know what? It’s not my job to make them change! My job is to provide a space for those who genuinely want to make that shift, to change.
Are you really thirsty for change?!
You can step up to ‘the well’ but unless you’re really thirsty, you won’t drink from it. You can make as many claims to wanting financial abundance as you like, and you can consciously believe that, that is the case; but your environment doesn’t lie and your mind does not lose!!
I’m not saying that, consciously: you want to be broke, living in lack, unhealthy or repeating the same crappy relationships. Of course not. You chose to come here for help getting away from one or more of those things.
But the mind does not lose. Your subconscious moves up to 10,000,000 times faster than your conscious mind. How are you ever going to keep up with that at a conscious level?!
What you can do is start to introduce shifts to the mind’s programming, so that on that level you can start to bring your subconscious into alignment with what you consciously desire.
What I’ve come to realise about my work, therefore, is that what I am really here to do is not ‘make you drink’ but instead provide you with the tools to reset the system. To tap into your subconscious and begin to a: understand the programming that is currently in there, and b: start to introduce new programming, to begin seeing change in your outer world.
If you are truly thirsty: you will drink.
If you’re not drinking: you’re not thirsty.
Take a look at your environment, as it is right now. Take stock of what is showing up for you and that will give you a clear vision of where you are now. If you genuinely want to change it, then the first place you have to start is with those subconscious programs.
This is where my Flow Funnel comes in (the details of which, we’ll save for another day) – introduce new thoughts and feelings, then observe them moving through you as intentions, actions and ultimately: experiences.
That’s it for today. Thank you so much for reading, I really hope that this little mini-series of blogs is giving you something to ruminate over, as it has me!
I’ll be bringing you part three next Friday, so watch out for that!!
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This was wonderful. Very clear and I also could feel your growth in it as well so thank you for your candor.
Again this blog is part of what I am learning from you plus workshops and meditations.
I am so grateful and thankful that you showed up just when I needed your wonderful work.
Dianne J. Shaver
Bless you Dianne, thank you so much for your comment. That’s wonderful! My love to you.